Of un-becoming and beyond.

In a world that asks you to dream big, I ask you to dream more. In a world that asks you to achieve, I ask you to eliminate. In a world that asks you to be different, to be better, to be above, I ask you to be you.

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Do you ever feel life? We see life. We live life. But do you ever feel the breaths you take?

Feel. As much as you can. As strongly as you can. 

We’re all so caught up in the generalized norms and codes that coding has become a part of us. It’s a part of how we see, what we see, and what we choose to be. We let others decide for what makes us look better and voila! The decision is made and we feel good because we are accepted.

Hey, listen. Don’t get into the complications. Everyone would only know what’s better for them, and to give them the privilege of having a say in yours just makes them feel better about themselves. We’re all just a bunch of humans wanting to simplify everything in the process of complicating it. Like if you say, it’s all for a purpose and there’s a purpose to life. Hold it right there! Why? Why does there have to be a purpose to life? Life is in itself a purpose, it’s the very purpose in fact. Don’t try to find reasons in life, instead find life in every reason. 

Sleep under the stars. You’ll realise that for that instant, you’re not chasing something, you’re not hustling, the stars, they’re everywhere, for that moment, you’re just you. Walk the trails that have fascinated you everytime you drove past them. Feel the infinite and explore it. 

I’ve always heard from people that being under the sky, or anyplace where nature embraces you, they feel small, just a tiny fraction of the world. I’ve always felt something else. I’ve always felt like I’m a part of it, and you don’t compare the part with the whole, the whole that comprises of it. I’ve always felt belonged. And everything apart from that seemed small, every worry, every question, every answer. 

Get real in your own skin. Don’t become an ‘otherwise’. Do things on impulse. Follow your intuition. Listen to what your mind has to say and follow your heart. Stargaze. Swim. Fly. You don’t have to be anyone or everyone you see. You just have to be. And don’t set standards for how being is. Be, however you want to. Explore all that you want to. 

Feel beautiful, and it won’t matter how pretty you appear to the world. Don’t go looking in your closet to find what makes you look good, go exploring in your soul to find what makes you feel good. It’s kind of ironic, you really don’t have to add stuff or achieve something to be happy, most of the time, you just have to get riddance from everything that keeps you from it. 

In a world that asks you to dream big, I ask you to dream more. In a world that asks you to achieve, I ask you to eliminate. In a world that asks you to be different, to be better, to be above, I ask you to be you. 

In a world where everyone wants to live and feel above, I ask you to live beyond, BEYOND CONVENTIONS. 

Strip yourself bare till you feel closer to stars than to goals, till you feel life becoming a part of you and not just you becoming a part of it, till you have more feelings than words to express them. Strip yourself till you feel energy in your soul and rawness in your bones. Strip yourself off of everything till you feel raw. Till you feel belonged in your own skin, and aligned with your own soul. 

Hey, here’s a nudge!

A friend told me that the next time I’m dealing with something that drains me, I should nudge myself, breathe and smile.
And it’s really as simple as that. We try looking for something brilliantly witty to ease ourselves from our stress but it’s as simple as that! We just have to look for complexities everywhere when just a nudge does the work. Us humans!
PS. Why are we always ready to give up on life rather than on our issues? Which reminds me, the only way out is through.

Calm. Happiness. Peace. Chaos. Misery. Pain. NUDGE. Peace. 

You could be a sixty year old dealing with health issues, a sixteen year old coping with bullying or someone in their mid twenties working through their career and self-doubt problems. You could be anyone anywhere. But there’s something that you share with every human around you, and it’s struggle. It’s pain. Everyone everywhere has issues and that, that is what connects you to them. It’s life. It happens to everyone. But that’s the catch, it only happens to you till you realise it happens for you. 

The harder it gets, the stronger you become. What you’ve acquired will always be stronger than what you’ve been provided with already. So acquire life for yourself, acquire inspiration. 

Who doesn’t have issues? Some bleed in the battlefields you can see while for some the battles are as silent as their words. We’re all a bunch of people craving and hustling for liberty. But here’s what we fail to realise, liberty isn’t having no problems at all and living the completely balanced life, rather, to find peace amidst the chaos is liberty. Stop hustling. When you free your mind, that’s liberty. It’s not something that depends on environmental or physical state, it is in itself a state of mind,  and sometimes it’s a state of mindlessness. 

We have issues, big deal! We don’t have to be miserable about it, we gotta deal with stuff anyway so it’s pointless to spend any negative energy on it. And I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s better and freer done than said. 

At no point in your life will you not have any problems, so how long do you plan to drown yourself? We don’t get to decide if or not we want the struggle we’re going through, but what we do have in our hands is the power to change it. It’s not about what we deserve, it’s about how we deal with what we’re getting and what we do to change it. Always remember, “You need not grow where you are planted.” 

It’s all on you to create what you imagine. And sometimes, it’s not the chances we didn’t take that we regret, what we regret sometimes is the realisation of what could have been​ a chance. 

So here’s something for all of you, breathe. Nothing is under control, stop trying to control it, just breathe. You’re getting thru it, and you’re getting thru it without being miserable. So breathe, nudge yourself, exhale and smile. 

Forever-ing the Transience? 

We want to be different, make our lives count, live for ourselves and yet the unstated intention and aim is to create an impact on the world around us, the lives around us. We want to leave our mark. I think even tho we know and accept the fact that we don’t live forever and nothing about us is intransient, we don’t really want to surrender to this and we give our best attempt to glorify our existence for as long and as widely as we can. Everyone wants to make a difference, not in their lives, but in those around them. And that’s where the purpose is misunderstood. One day it all just goes. Evanescence is inevitable. Don’t try to get the most of everything that is around you but try to feel and learn wholly in the one moment that you’re in. You won’t last forever, but what you leave as art is going to inspire thousands after you. And the best shot at that is always going to be yourself when you do things. Einstein is Einstein even after flunking history classes. He did what he was interested in, answered his calling and just wanted to do his thing, which was science, not history; ideas, not facts. And on his journey of working on his interests, made the greatest of discoveries. Gandhi never started those movements to one day be written about in books and for his face to be on national currency. All he wanted was freedom and rights of his people and a life of dignity and fought for it. To be remembered or to create something eternal was never their aim, it just was to make a way to live by their rules and follow their heart everyday. Don’t target your life to make it last forever. There’s no forever promised to us and all we have is a shot to live a life full of varying nows. As overly said yet understated it is, it still is very rarely uptaken : don’t price your today’s happiness on tomorrow’s fears and insecurities. The fame of today will fade someday. Imagine how beautiful and freeing it would be to be nothing, not hollow, just nothing. To fit into no definitions. It sounds like a good difference to be someone who isn’t in a rush to just be someone and just sees all the beauty, the hustle and for a change, wants to know rather than be known. To just un-become everything you thought you were, to unravel and somehow during the process maybe meet yourself? The core of you. 

Sounds good to me. 

Live before you die.

Be kind for no reason at all, because why not? Your little effortless acts of kindness and compassion could affect someone more than you can imagine.
An old man at a tea stall offered me a cup of tea without me asking for one and gave it to me regardless of me refusing. Little did I know that in that biting cold weather and with me being tired and not having had proper time to relax in days, I could do with a cup of steaming tea on a very cold night. He had absolutely no need to insist on giving the cup of tea but nevertheless he did and did not even accept money for it.
Just that gesture lifted my spirits and made me smile. These little things mean more than words can explain. It just feels good from within 🙂
Not related to my post but I just wanted to share. Hope you smile a little more today!

If there’s one thing I can say, it’ll be that life comes at you fast. One day you are young and dreaming of life and the other day you are either living them or they lie in the heap of battered aspirations and chosen compromises altogether. Either you are happy or you are not. Either you are working your way toward the life you intended or you settle with your destination without even stepping foot on the road. Time goes by fast and none of it can ever be recovered. So this one life that you are granted, live it yourself, live it for yourself. Yeah? You have just one chance at dreaming, hoping, working, loving, creating, breaking, learning and then rebuilding. Make the most of it. Do not, please do not ever settle for anything. Do not settle when it comes to life. Be greedy to learn, to create, to live. Get the creativity out when it comes to life. Experience and explore what sets your soul on fire. Work for it. Fall for it. Fail for it. But just don’t give up on it. Work on yourself. All that really matters the most, is you. And that’s not ego speaking. The world may try to talk you into believing otherwise, but trust me, prioritising your life is not selfishness and it holds more importance than it is credited for. And anything that requires for you to make adjustments with your life that is just really a cover for compromising, none of it is helping you or working for you. What couldn’t work for itself is never going to build you. Always, choose your life and choose to create it. At the end of the day it all comes back at you and you will be the one regretting or rejoicing. No one ever will live your life for you. So don’t resort to the easiest excuse if it doesn’t go right. Don’t blame. It really is the most common human tendency, or sometimes, instinct. Tomorrow, it would be very easy to pin it on the society or circumstances, but that wouldn’t change or lessen the regret, hurt and the loss you would be feeling. Basically, you carry the load. 

So take charge. Focus on your life. Now. Make it. Make life work for you. Change it your way. Live your life, your dreams. And just don’t settle with settling and blaming. It all happens very fast and everything will be overwhelming so just try to bunch in as many moments as you can that make you smile and feel contented. The idea is to live a life where the mistakes you make will at least be yours to own.​

“Where are we going?Somewhere we belong.” 

Around 3 years back I had listened to “Wake me up” by Avicii for the first time, the little girl asks “Where are we going” and the older one replies “Somewhere we belong”. That day, three years ago, this answer struck a chord. It’s now that I can understand it on a whole new level.

​There have always been and will always be some of the greatest memories with the greatest people, out of which a lot won’t stay. You’ll never be the same person you were three years ago. You’ll face stuff, you’ll see things changing and you’ll evolve. Soak it all in. Because you’re never getting any moment twice and everything you’re met with has some importance for you. You were dealing with strife but now, all it is to you is gain thru the pain. You also had beautiful and greatest times, but they’re memories very cherished now. The point is, everything your past ever was, was to lead you here and everything your present is, is to take you somewhere you belong. So as it goes on, every little or major occurrence in your life is not going to stay forever and you’re going to change and grow to fit into something that’s right for you, and WHEN it is right for you. The seemingly important issues become trivial as it happens and the little details that went by unnoticed will be connoted. And that’s okay. Because that’s evolving. You’ll get thrills and jitters as you move your way into a change, but that’s the thing about cusps. Deal with it, and go on. There’ll be so so much you’ll learn and you’d just feel contented when you’ll realize that all of it, it was right. It was framed to fit you. And once you understand this, there’ll be less fearing and more acceptance. You’ll mold yourself into understanding even what’s beyond your experience. So yes, it will be a lot more different, maybe more challenging but if it’s that, it’s definitely going to be more liberating. And however good or happy the past was, if given the opportunity, I would never ask to go back into the time and live it all over again or change any bit of it. Because I don’t really think I’m okay with going back to a lesser version of me now that I’ve seen the broader one, reverting all the growth and nullifying every experience, unchanging every change I’ve been through. It took a lot out of me to understand the concept, and I value everything I’ve learned way too much to set myself back to square one. A lot of newness has come to my perspective and I’d rather not cut it short.

Learning and acceptance is the final product of any experience, keep it. Value the light you’ve brought into your life because it’ll take you places. Places you belong.

Let go to let in. 

My friend used to say change is always for the better. It’s been a while since I started believing in it. Turned some pages, looked back and here I am, unfearing changes.

​Not everything happens the way you expect. Sometimes, the strangest and rarest of the things can be the biggest of the lessons you’ve had. You don’t have to go hunting for satisfaction and happiness. Happiness isn’t a destination. More like a manner of journey. There might be hurt, loss, regret in the process, but there’ll always be learning. And how’s that any bad? You don’t always intend bad, but you cannot change the course of events occurred. All you can do is learn and change. The space that’s between what you had been thru and how you want to be, it’s liminal. Better yourself with every step you take. You don’t always have second chances. Maybe the process was set that way just for you to understand. Maybe the hurting was required. Maybe the regret was what caused the change. Life has its way of teaching for everyone. It’s you who’ll know where it went downhill. You can wear a facade for everyone to see. But you can’t hide from your own self. Wrong cannot be made right. But the impact of wrong can be reduced if we choose to change. Change for good. Sometimes stepping outta the bubble and taking challenges, accepting and admitting to things, making realizations and decisions and leaving comfort zone does you better. It is never good to remain stuck somewhere. Anywhere. You gotta adapt. You gotta stay healthy and you gotta move on. You gotta lift yourself from your ramshackle. Because you don’t know what you are missing out on if you aren’t ready to adjust. The best way to change is acceptance of the state you are in. As bizarre as it sounds, it’s a sort of clearance you need. And when that registers, all else you seek will find its way to you. You have to see it. Understand it. More importantly, accept it. You have to choose what’s good for you and you have to let go to let something wonderful in.

Liminal

Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens FOR you!

The title is inspired by what someone very close to me once told me. And that was a reminder, more of a realization I’d say. Most of us, we let fears and insecurities control us and that is where we choose to become victims.

​What we shall become is what we care to create of ourselves. We are all deeper than the darkest blues of the ocean beds and higher than the fogged whites of the sky. We are above. We are beyond. We search for infinity but we are a part of it. We are boundless. All of us, we have magic. We have the ability to create. To express. To explore. And to learn. We doubt what we already have and are out there hoping to create something bigger than ourselves while what we lack is the utmost required tool for anything we hope to accomplish. Our fear feeds on our insecurity of being able to perform. To create. But the ability, we have it present within. What we require is to fuel it. We worry over the result overlooking the present need which in fact, is in complete opposition to what we do. What we need is courage. To work. To take the leap. To hope. To dream. All rest will be the outcomes. How can we permutate the result without having given the efforts to the cause? But we being humans, tend to go astray from logic quite often. 

Each one of us, we have what it takes to create miracles. We have a mind, a heart and an entire journey to figure out who we are and what we want. There’s something for everyone that ignites fire in them. You just have to find it. And if you’re not able to do that, CREATE IT. Create your life. Your dreams. Build your path. Be fierce for what you seek. Do not settle because you feel hopeless or tired. Dejection, depression it’s all a part of it. But don’t let it make you give up. For it’s just that, a part. You have a lot to know. A lot to see and a lot to figure out. A lot that is yet to happen to you, FOR you. Quite a lot of times, you have to give meaning to things. All you need is to believe in yourself and then muster the guts to take risks. End up completing yourself. Because there’s no other that can do it for you.